In a healthy, mature society, the sacred masculine and the sacred feminine are revered. As a result, men and women are able to achieve higher states of consciousness, where the ‘impossible’ becomes possible. Our focus is on the higher self, on the good qualities of both our left (male) and right (female) brain hemispheres, and when we are stressed, we take time out to do healing work on our false selves, our immature egos.
If we are dominated by a right brain, female ego, we might find that we are prone to giving too much of ourselves to others, whilst neglecting our own wellbeing. This may translate as procrastinating, or living in a “dream world”, instead of performing our daily duties. We may feel constant, real or false guilt. This may result in feeling unworthy, unimportant, unlovable, insecure, paranoid, possessive, needy, jealous, obsessive, scattered, erratic, superficial and indecisive. We may come across as a jealous, insecure and neurotic ‘game player’.
If we are dominated by an immature, left brain, male ego, we might find that we are stressed, angry and selfish, anxious and overwhelmed with work, and not spending any time supporting the part of us that is confident, mature, compassionate, supportive, emotionally sensitive or tactful, the part that loves ourselves, and enjoys giving to others. We may feel unsympathetic, insensitive, competitive, controlling, resentful, full of blame, dominant, stubborn, narcissistic, vain and arrogant. We may come across as a mean, judgemental, hypocritical bully.
Tending to our male and female egos on a daily, or frequent basis
1. Consider writing a list of chores, and devoting time each day to getting these things done. A stressed mind has trouble remembering all of the things that we have to do. When we break big jobs down into stages, or into smaller steps, ticking them off becomes a thoroughly enjoyable experience. For truly big jobs, getting help, or getting the household involved, can change a perceived chore into a productive family, or communal, bonding session.
2. Include on this daily list, “Take responsibility for myself and my actions”. Who else is going to look after you, if you won’t? For the guilty feminine brain, declare ME TIME, to be that friend that we need. The antidotes to false guilt are self-forgiveness and self-respect. For the angry male brain, take ME TIME, to release our resentment and frustration. If we are hungry, we should eat, or if we are tired, sleep. If people are getting on our nerves, remember that our negative emotions are illusions, that anger is always a hypocrite, that there are many more sides to the story, including forgiving ourselves for our own imperfections, so be forgiving, be humble, have respect for the wellbeing of others, change the scene, and spend time alone, preferably in nature. Confident people are not mean to others. The antidote to anger is respect and humility.
3. If daily stressors are dragging us down, write a list of ISSUES, and make a column to the right for PLAN B. Now go through the list, and work out a solution for each issue. If it’s financial, we may need to consider working out what our heart truly wants to do. We start to benefit on many levels when we follow our heart’s joy. Remember, a longstanding sense of “lack” typically compels us to become the “takers” in life, forgetting that we are happiest when giving, of our time or energy, and that we attract abundance when we allow the flow of energy, both in and out of our life. Community gardens or volunteer work may be a great place to start, in order to things into perspective. Hint: our higher self enjoys working for our own highest good, as well as for the highest good of others.
4. Heal our heart. Am I listening to my heart? What does LOVE say? Love is generally much quieter than our noisy egos. Breathe in LOVE into our heart…and breathe out STRESS, imagining it being zapped away, immediately. Breathe in LOVE, seeing and feeling it as a loving, incandescent white light, filling our body…and breathe out STRESS, seeing it evaporate immediately. Breathe in LOVE… and breathe out STRESS…until the stress is gone. Now breathe in LOVE and breathe out LOVE, imagining filling our surroundings with LOVE and LIGHT…and enjoy the feeling. Imagine our hearts as bright as the midday sun, our rib cage opening and our wonderful light expanding, spreading love and joy in all directions. When we practise this enough, we often become so good at it, that we easily have enough loving light to encompass the whole planet, and everyone on it: “My cup runneth over.” It feels great!
5. Creative visualisation is a wonderful, underutilised exercise. Imagine the opposite of what our egos are worrying about. Imagine the BEST. How would I like to be, physically, mentally, emotionally, geographically, and financially. See ourselves as excelling in all areas that our heart enjoys. See ourselves as making a comfortable living, doing what brings us joy. Now send this picture gratitude and love. Then surrender and release it, with gratitude. Now write a list of what steps you need to take, in order to accomplish this wonderful dream. Get advice, or do some research if necessary.
This is your life! This is your creation! Write the script to include the happy outcome that you deserve!
Joanna Mansson is a retired veterinarian and author of “The Soul Wins: How To Be Emotionally Intelligent”, who teaches Emotional Intelligence and Animal Communication. Ph: 0455 248 874 Email: email@example.com. She is available for consultations with humans or for humans with their animals.
Connect Magazine August 2016